Contentment

Do you have contentment? Do you compete with or compare yourself to others?  Try seeing your tapestry, your embroidery of the fabric of your life.  Learn to Complement your Life.  For when we compare, we will surely despair. This is knowledge for true contentment! “We all have a place within this beautiful embroidery of life; let us know it, enjoy it, express it as our right, but never overdo it because we feel our role or position is more advanced, or better than others. Sometimes, when there is a sense of personal or collective emptiness, there is the need to be recognized, which creates attachment to your own talents, role or virtues. For Contentment, we have to learn to complement rather than compete. Nature works on the principle of complementarity. This can be seen with the seasons, day and night, the continual cyclical process of birth, growth, maturity, decay, death and rebirth. Even our bodies work on this principle. Look at the face! Each face has two eyes, one nose, one mouth, two ears, all in the right position and functioning in an appropriate way. Which of these is more important? Would you say the eyes are more important, so you would prefer to have three eyes and no nose? Or would you say the nose is more important, so you would prefer to have three noses and no ears? We cannot think like this because it is absurd and illogical. Each feature has equal value and when we recognize the equal value of all things, then we stop being illogical – comparing, competing, feeling superior or inferior, or striving to be what we are not. In a society that functions, can everyone be a doctor, an engineer or a farmer? Everyone has different talents and positions because different tasks have to be fulfilled if the whole society is to run well. If we examine life carefully, we realize that the recognition of this principle of complementarity is the basis of creating a peaceful and happy coexistence, because the vision of equality respects and honors the differences.”   from  the Brahma Kumaris...

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Power of Forgiveness

The Power of Forgiveness “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” Mahatma Gandhi Have you ever been wronged by someone? In such a case, our nature is not to forgive. We want to take revenge. We want to get even. That’s why Mahatma Gandhi’s quote above is apt. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. The weak can never forgive. If you want to live above the average, then, forgiveness must be one of your attributes. One possible reason why it’s hard to forgive is because you can’t forgive yourself. You might have made mistakes in the past and blame yourself for it. Since you can’t forgive yourself, it’s hard for you to forgive others. The first step, then, is to forgive yourself. Realize that nobody is perfect. Realize that everyone makes mistakes. Therefore there is no reason not to give yourself a second chance. Only by giving yourself a second chance can you give others a second chance. You can then learn to forgive others. An important thing to remember is that forgiveness is a matter of decision, not feeling. You might not feel like it, but you can decide to forgive. Make the decision and let the burden go. When you forgive others, guess what? You set yourself free. Perhaps you think that by not forgiving others you make their lives miserable. But the fact is, the one who is most miserable isyou. Why? Because you can’t have peace in your heart. No matter how much you own, you still can’t live with inner peace. You might think you are okay, but that’s probably because you’ve forgotten how true peace is like. Trust me, the burden you put on yourself is not worth it. Tap into the power of forgiveness. Living a free and peaceful life is way, way better. What a great article from Life Optimizer!!!!...

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Optimism

Have you ever noticed how much we are told Optimism is a vital key to success in all aspects of our lives? I’ve heard everything from “fake it to make it” to being labeled a Pollyanna if always seeing the glass as half full. And yet, I know there is something to it. Having a positive attitude can impact how we see the world around us. Donald @ Life Optimizer recently wrote: “Optimism means a sense of unlimited possibilities about your future. It’s the belief that, when it comes to your future, nothing is impossible. Your surroundings might not be ideal, but that won’t hinder you from being what you’re supposed to be.” For me, Optimism is not just the way we think but is getting out of our heads and into the Truth we hold sacred within each of us deep in our souls. It is when we can reach down and access this Truth that we get in touch with our internal rudder, our motivation, our confidence — all which fuel our outlook — like wearing a new pair of glasses so we can soften our gaze and open to a new landscape. The the glass is full to overflowing! There are many ways to access this internal knowing — one of my favorites is getting into mindfulness and doing a visualization — I would love to tell you more — call...

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Self Development Goals for Growth

According to an article in Careerealism, here are the seven milestones (goals) of self development in pursuit of personal and professional growth … I have to agree this is a pretty good list: 1. Preparation One must be ready for the new challenges and opportunities and prepare for them in mean time. This shows that you are perceptive and hold a futuristic approach. 2. Enthusiasm In pursuit of achieving our goals, there has to be a strong will, a passion, and the enthusiasm for it. Enthusiasm demands perseverance. 3. Self-Reliance Not at the expense of support but rather, one must follow intuition. 4. Expertise Excellence in skills can only be attained by constantly struggling and polishing what we already know…One must always remember that an expert was once a learner. 5. Self-Image Although our appearance to others is important, our self-image is more important. 6. Self-Discipline Once a person has learned the art of self-discipline, there can be no impediment more difficult to overcome. 7. Extraordinary Performance To err is human; to learn from errors is divine. This simple mantra, if followed devotedly, can result in consummate individuals. To do so, one must take up challenges, walk the extra mile, and put in an absolute effort to give a phenomenal...

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Self Review of How Others See You

I saw this article in Careerealism and adapted it as I thought it not only applies to careers but also certainly in life. Take a self review of how you think others would see you at work and outside work: 1. Are You Always Late Are you someone who is always late? What is late….5 minutes … a half hour? 2. Are You Rude? Do you get curt with people … maybe sarcastic … irritated and you show it? 3. How Involved Are You? Are you used to outsourcing everything but your sleep and love life? It’s great to have support but are you seen as someone who delegates so you don’t have to roll your own sleeves up? 4. Are You Open To Change Do you like to “stick with what works?” Are you someone who keeps buying the same brand products forever, who goes to the same vacation place year after year, and lives by “Don’t fix it if it ain’t broke”? This certainly can be OK if you don’t miss something new — often the silver platter is right under our nose — we need to be awake to see it! 5. Are You Too Proud? Are you a proud person who doesn’t need anyone and likes to “make it on your own?” Respect! You probably don’t ask for help easily (or at all!) and you love to help others. Just make sure not to translate this too rigidly and cut your nose off as they...

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Meaningful Change for 40 Days of Lent

What meaningful change for 40 days of Lent are you willing to make? This is Ash Wednesday and the beginning of Lent. For 40 days, it is a time a reflection and self sacrifice to be aligned with Purpose. Brilliant on so many levels! Did you know that if you faithfully maintain a change for 40 days you are more likely to sustain it? So what meaning change are you willing to step into whether this 40 days or any 40 days of your life. And, perhaps more meaningful than giving up chocolate … though that may be a great sacrifice for some! What about giving up being drawn into or a part of Gossip…… or not feel sorry for yourself and have more compassion … maybe practice patience … A friend suggested a new book called the Love Dare — it has all sorts of challenges! Whatever is meaningful for you, decide what you are willing and want to change in yourself — a way of being, a message in your head… and stick to it for 40 days and see how you feel afterwards! Of course, having a support system helps ensure success … as a Coach, well, I’m just...

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